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· October 29, 2023

24. “I Should” vs. “I Am” Statements; Removing the Guilt—Affirmation For Grace

Woman in deep thought, contemplating "I should" statements

Break free from the 'I should' statement trap and embrace a mindset of self-compassion and grace. In this episode of Mindful Life Changes (formerly known as the Mindful Career Change podcast), host Valerie Mekki dives into how a seemingly innocent two-word phrase, 'I should,' can secretly sabotage your self-confidence and motivation. She explores the impact of unrealistic expectations and how they often lead to guilt and shame, especially during career changes. 

Discover the transformative impact of 'I am' statements over 'I should,' and take part in a simple but eye-opening exercise that will help you eliminate 'I should' from your inner dialogue. She also shares a transformative affirmation of giving yourself grace, 'I Am Doing My Best and Releasing All Unrealistic Expectations.’ This helpful affirmation  is creating room for growth and possibilities. It's time to cultivate self-compassion, prioritize personal growth, and unlock your true potential.

Show Notes and Timestamps:

[00:01:05] Intro

[00:01:38] The word should. What does it really mean? 

[00:02:44] Expectations in comparison to others

[00:03:24] When expectations are rigid

[00:04:43] Let’s flip the script

[00:05:43] A simple exercise that can help you eliminate ‘I should’ from inner dialogue

[00:06:39] Start of affirmation

[00:09:38] End of affirmation 

[00:10:05] Make your affirmation practice S.T.I.C.K.Y 

[00:11:52] End of episode

Learn a better way to have a healthier and kinder inner dialogue with yourself. Check out episode #14 for full details. And if you’re curious about how to make your affirmations sticky, listen to episode 1 and I’ll walk you through how to make your affirmation practice a more effective and transformative tool for your career-changing journey.

Formerly known as the “Mindful Career Change Podcast,” I decided to broaden our conversation to cover all life transitions, not just our careers.

Follow the show @mindfullifechanges and DM a question or comment about the life transitions you’re going through too. I might answer your question in one of the episodes to help you and other midlifers navigate this everchanging and beautiful season of life.

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Oh, hello! I'm Valerie, I know midlife can be a rollercoaster full of twists and turns. As a career change guide and mindfulness enthusiast, I'm passionate about helping women like you navigate this phase with more joy and less stress.

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